Frequently Asked Questions

  • $180 per 50-minute session. I'm not in network with any insurance, see the next question for how out-of-network reimbursement works.

  • I'm not in network with any insurance company. That's deliberate — it keeps decisions about your care between us rather than subject to what a plan will authorize, and it keeps your records out of an insurer's hands.

    If you want to pursue out-of-network reimbursement, I'll provide a superbill you can submit to your plan. Just ask. What you get back depends on your policy's out-of-network benefits, so it's worth calling your insurer before we start.

  • I see clients at my Lone Tree, CO office:

    9896 Rosemont Ave. Ste. 104 Lone Tree, CO 80124

    I also work by telehealth. Hours are flexible — if you can't find a time that works, email me and we'll find one.

  • Yes! Anywhere in Colorado, and anywhere in Tennessee. Sessions run on HIPAA-compliant video. For a lot of clients, particularly anyone fitting this between meetings, telehealth is what makes it sustainable rather than one more thing that doesn't fit.

  • Yes — it's central to what I do. My graduate training is in marriage and family therapy, so couples and families aren't a sideline I picked up later.

    A few things people usually want to know before they ask:

    You don't both have to be equally sure. It's common for one person to book and the other to come reluctantly. That's workable. What isn't workable is one of you coming to have me referee.

    I don't take sides — but I'm not neutral about patterns. If something one of you is doing is causing damage, I'll name it. To both of you, in the room.

    It doesn't have to be a crisis, and separation isn't disqualifying. Some couples come in over a specific breach. Others have been quietly drifting for years and finally said it out loud. And if what you're actually weighing is whether to stay, that's legitimate work. I'm not going to push you toward an answer in either direction.

    More on this on the Work With Me page.

  • Yes — I have a particular heart for it. There's a specific kind of hard that comes with early adulthood: everyone else appears to have a map, the life you assumed would show up hasn't, and saying any of that out loud feels like admitting you're behind.

    What I see most often is directionlessness that gets mistaken for laziness, anxiety that looks like avoidance, and the loneliness of being surrounded by people while feeling unreachable.

    Two notes, depending on who's reading this.

    If you're the young adult: I'll treat you like an adult. You decide what we work on, and how fast.

    If you're a parent: I'm glad you're looking. But if your son or daughter is eighteen or older, the therapy is theirs, they decide whether to come, and what we talk about stays between us unless they choose otherwise. That isn't me being difficult. It's usually the thing that makes it work.

    More on this on the Work With Me page.

  • Everyone I see is different, with different needs and different context making it very difficult to determine how much time is needed. What I can tell you is the range I actually see. Some people come for two or three sessions, get a different angle on something, and are done. Others work with me for months, because what they're carrying has been there a long time and doesn't unwind quickly. Most land somewhere in between.

    What I won't do is stretch it out. If you're getting what you came for, I'll tell you. And if I don't think I'm the right person to get you there, I'll tell you that too.

    For planning, you can see an estimate of costs here. You'll also receive a Good Faith Estimate from me at the start of our work together.

  • Start with a free 15-minute consultation, by phone or video. It isn't a session — it's you asking me questions, and both of us finding out whether this is a fit. You can schedule one here.

    If you decide to go ahead, you'll get an invitation to my client portal, which runs on HIPAA-compliant software. That's where you'll complete intake forms, schedule sessions, and join telehealth. The forms ask for more detail than feels strictly necessary, and that's on purpose — it means we don't spend your first session on paperwork.

    What we talk about is confidential, within the limits the law sets. I'll go through those with you in writing before we begin.

    Your first session usually runs longer than the ones after it. I'd rather get a real picture up front than spread it across three weeks. After that, we'll work out frequency together.

  • Professional life produces a specific kind of damage, and it usually arrives disguised as competence. You're still performing. Nothing looks broken. But the cost is landing somewhere — sleep, your marriage, how clearly you can think — and the culture that produced it will hand it back to you as a personal resilience problem.

    Two things make this work different. The first is that I don't need the context explained to me. My husband spent years in that world, and I watched what it cost from about as close as a person can stand. So when a composed, articulate, high-functioning person tells me they're fine, I don't take it at face value.

    The second is that this isn't open-ended talking. I ask direct questions and I tell you what I actually think. If something you're describing is costing you more than you've admitted, I'll say so. Kindly, but I'll say it.

    There's a fuller version of this on the therapy for executives and professionals page. And if you're weighing therapy against coaching, or wondering whether both makes sense, that's the next question below.

  • They're different tools, and the distinction matters more than most people think.

    Therapy works downward and backward. It deals with mental health, emotional injury, and what sits underneath a pattern — including history you may not have connected to what's happening now. It's a clinical relationship, which means it comes with a treatment frame, records, and confidentiality protections.

    Coaching works forward. It starts from where you're trying to get to and builds strategy, skill, and accountability toward it. It isn't clinical, and it isn't regulated the same way.

    Neither is a lesser version of the other. The mistake is using one where the other was needed — spending a year coaching around something that turns out to be an old injury, or sitting in therapy when what you actually needed was a plan and someone to hold you to it.

    Plenty of people benefit from both, and that's the reason the Kintsugi Leadership Restoration Method exists. I do the therapy. My husband, Jared, does the coaching, through Kintsugi Institute. Two separate practices, two separate relationships — we coordinate only if you ask us to and put it in writing. You're welcome to work with either of us on your own.

    If you want a longer treatment of the general question, this article covers it well.

  • Yes, if it matters to you.

    I'm a person of faith. I don't check that at the door, and I don't bring it into the room uninvited either. What that means practically: if your faith is central to how you understand your life, your marriage, or your obligations, you don't have to translate it into secular terms for me, and you don't have to brace for it to be treated as a symptom. It's part of the material.

    If you don't share it, or don't have one at all, that changes nothing about the work. I'm not here to move you toward a conclusion about what you believe. Your values set the direction — not mine.

    And if what you're carrying is about faith — you're questioning something you were raised in, or a religious community is where the injury happened — that's welcome too. I'd rather you bring it to someone who won't flinch at it and won't take a side.

    One thing to be clear about: this is clinical therapy, not pastoral or religious counseling. If what you're looking for is spiritual direction from inside a particular tradition, your clergy is the better resource, and I'll tell you so.

  • EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It's a structured approach used mostly for trauma, and for memories that still carry a charge years after the fact. It isn't fringe. EMDR is among the approaches recommended for post-traumatic stress in major clinical practice guidelines.

    The short version of how it works: you bring up a difficult memory while doing something that occupies your attention at the same time — usually tracking a moving target with your eyes, sometimes taps or tones. The theory is that this helps the brain file the memory differently, so recalling it stops setting off the same alarm.

    Two things worth knowing. First, you don't have to narrate the event in detail. That matters enormously to people who've found talk therapy impossible for exactly that reason. Second, it doesn't erase anything. The memory stays. It is simply reprocessed in the brain so it doesn’t continue to activate you as a trauma.

    I'm trained in EMDR and use it where it fits. It isn't the right tool for everyone or for everything, and I'll tell you if I don't think it's what you need.

  • I'd rather tell you this up front than three sessions in.

    I'm one therapist in an outpatient practice, which means some things need a different setting or a different specialist:

    I don't prescribe medication. If that would help, I'm glad to work alongside a prescriber — but you'll need one.

    I don't do forensic work — custody evaluations, court-ordered assessments, or anything intended to be used as evidence. It's a separate specialty, and doing therapy and evaluation for the same person compromises both.

    I don't do formal psychological or diagnostic testing. If that's what you need, I can point you toward people who do it well.

    Some situations need more support than weekly outpatient sessions can give. Substance dependence that requires detox, an eating disorder needing medical monitoring, or anything where safety needs daily attention. That isn't a judgment about you — it's about matching the level of care to what's actually happening.

    If any of that is where you are, the consultation is still worth doing. Fifteen minutes is usually enough for me to point you somewhere better, and I'd rather do that than take you on and be the wrong fit.

    If you're in crisis right now, don't wait on a consultation. Call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or go to your nearest emergency room.