Meet Stacey
I’ve been on the other side of this
I lived in Japan for a few years. That's where I first saw a piece of kintsugi pottery, a bowl someone had broken, then repaired with gold running through the cracks.
I couldn't stop thinking about it. Not because it was beautiful, though it was. Because someone had decided it was worth repairing. And the repair didn’t pretend the break had never happened.
I recognized something in that.
I've been through hard things. I've done the work of coming out the other side, and I'll be honest with you about what that took. It wasn't time passing. It wasn't waiting to feel better. It was deliberate, and it asked something of me.
The therapist I am exists because of that. Because I know what that work asked of me, and how deeply it changed my life.
That’s the work I do with people now. The patient, deliberate work of mending what hurts. We don’t get to choose where life leaves its cracks. But we can give those places care and attention. That’s where the gold goes.
A few things that aren’t on a license
I've been married over twenty-five years. We have five children, several of them gifted, twice-exceptional, or living with ADHD — which means a good deal of what I understand about families, I did not learn in a classroom.
I love music. I’m a classically trained vocalist but my heart absolutely swoons for jazz. Family jam sessions are my favorite thing we do. And I'm most myself outdoors, somewhere in the mountains.
What it's like to sit with me
People often start by apologizing. For taking up time. For not knowing where to begin. For crying, or for being "dramatic."
You don’t need to apologize here. You can start in the middle. You can start with the thing you’re not sure is worth mentioning.
I’ll stay engaged with you, paying attention to what’s helping and where we need to try something different. I ask real questions, and I'll tell you what I actually think. If I notice something that may be hurting you or keeping you stuck, I’ll bring it up with care. And I want to hear when I’ve misunderstood.
I work systemically, which means that even when it's just the two of us in the room, I’m also paying attention to the relationships and patterns that shape your experience. Very little happens to one person alone.
When I work with partners, I make room for both perspectives and pay attention to what happens between you, especially when conversations keep ending in the same painful place.
We’ll talk about what you want from therapy and check in along the way about whether our work is moving toward what matters to you.
My approach draws from EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Positive Psychology, CBT, and Restoration Therapy.
Which ones I use depends on who you are, what you're working on, and where you are when we start. The method follows the person, not the other way around.
Practice Details
Stacey Haslam, MMFT Master of Marriage and Family Therapy — Lipscomb University, Nashville, TN
Colorado — Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate (MFTC # 0014936)
Tennessee — Associate Licensed Marital and Family Therapist (ALMFT #2373)
Practicing under the supervision of Adam Horn (TN & CO), LMFT #858, AAMFT Credentialed Supervisor
In-person — Lone Tree, Colorado | Telehealth — Colorado and Tennessee | $180 per session | Superbill available on request
Start with a conversation
Fifteen minutes, by phone or video. No cost, no commitment. It isn't a session — it's you asking me questions, and both of us finding out whether this feels right.
If it doesn't, I'll tell you, and I'll do my best to point you somewhere better.