Meet Stacey
I’ve been on the other side of this
I lived in Japan for a few years. That's where I first saw a piece of kintsugi pottery — a bowl someone had broken, then repaired with gold running through the cracks.
I couldn't stop thinking about it. Not because it was beautiful, though it was. Because of what it implied: that the break was part of the value. That whoever repaired it decided the damage was worth marking instead of hiding.
I recognized something in that.
I've been through hard things. I've done the work of coming out the other side, and I'll be honest with you about what that took. It wasn't time passing. It wasn't waiting to feel better. It was deliberate, and it asked something of me.
The therapist I am exists because of that. Not despite what broke. Because of how it was repaired.
That's the work I do with people now. Not managing the surface. Not coping at a distance. The actual mending — and finding that the seam is where the gold goes.
A few things that aren’t on a license
I've been married twenty-five years. We have five children, several of them gifted, twice-exceptional, or living with ADHD — which means a good deal of what I understand about families, I did not learn in a classroom.
I love music. I’m a classically trained vocalist but my heart absolutely swoons for jazz. Family jam sessions are my favorite thing we do. And I'm most myself outdoors, somewhere in the mountains.
What it's like to sit with me
People often start by apologizing. For taking up time. For not knowing where to begin. For crying, or for being "dramatic."
I'd rather you didn't. You can start in the middle. You can start with the thing that seems too small to mention, in my experience it's usually not small.
I won't hand you a worksheet and call it progress. I ask real questions, and I'll tell you what I actually think. If something you're describing sounds like it's costing you more than you've admitted, I'm going to say so. Kindly. But I'm going to say it.
I work systemically, which means that even when it's just the two of us in the room, I'm paying attention to everyone else in your life. Very little happens to one person alone.
I can't tell you how long any of this takes. What I can tell you is that I've watched it work, and that I'll be honest with you the entire way through.
I employ several therapeutic modalities in my practice, including EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Positive Psychology, CBT, and Restoration Therapy.
Which ones I use depends on who you are, what you're working on, and where you are when we start. The method follows the person, not the other way around.
Practice Details
Stacey Haslam, MMFT Master of Marriage and Family Therapy — Lipscomb University, Nashville, TN
Colorado — Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate (MFTC # 0014936)
Tennessee — Associate Licensed Marital and Family Therapist (ALMFT #2373)
Practicing under the supervision of Adam Horn (TN & CO), LMFT #858, AAMFT Credentialed Supervisor
In-person — Lone Tree, Colorado | Telehealth — Colorado and Tennessee | $180 per session | Superbill available on request
Start with a conversation
Fifteen minutes, by phone or video. No cost, no commitment. It isn't a session — it's you asking me questions, and both of us finding out whether this feels right.
If it doesn't, I'll tell you, and I'll do my best to point you somewhere better.